ItsEssexRob wrote:
However, the fear of getting a NIP, due to the fact that for the first 24 months I am on a 6 point limit begins to overwhelm me.
Perhaps the reason for this was that I kept having stop start lessons due to money and other issues. I was one of those people who never thought I would pass my test one way or another. Somehow I passed first time and it was like a dream.
However 13 months down the line I find this dream marred by the stress of worry.
This is down to confidence. As we develop our road skills, ability and knowledge we tend to start to 'relax' 'into the driving'. I think you are getting yourself 'worked up' and in this stressed state you may be priming yourself up 'to' fail.
So what may help you

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... show you how you can gain confidence, not rip what you have to shreds,
... show you how you can relax and enjoy your driving,
How YOU are in control at ALL times, and that this is a Good thing,

That where you have confidences, to build on these and allow them to grow into other areas where you are less confident.
(There's much more but this is the basics)

ItsEssexRob wrote:
Im constantly thinking ' what if I miss a limit sign and end up doing 39 in a 30' So I tend to end up doing about 30 in every area that Im not convinced is above, and less in areas I know are 30's in case my speedo isnt entirely accurate or in case their speed guns are inaccurate.
I am assuming that you would have already afforded a satnav if you could have? Can help you with your route and road lay out and possible camera sites, specific speed, etc
So let's look at this ... First you must TRY to think more positively not negatively. Most things can be phrased as a negative thought or a Positive one. Lets make this into a positive one. eg I have JUST passed a 30 so I *KNOW* (legally and if a cop stopped me) that I have just passed a 30 sign. You can be confident !

As you go along you see various hazards that make you reduce your speed even stop perhaps.
You cannot see a sign but you can see street lights and know that the last sign your saw was 30 - so you proceed at 30 with two pieces of knowledge. (At the moment the majority is 30mph)
As you travel along a few 'tricks & tips' - where the road looks clear (and to practice this ONLY when it is safe), scan the road near to you, glance in mirrors and behind, then back in front, then look as far ahead as as you can see, then, scan back along that 'road ahead' back to the front of your car, noticing everything, and those things that maybe 'in a minute' hazards, that may develop up ahead. This gives you a bit more time to react it also helps you see the road ahead and it's furnishings inc. any traffic lights etc.
If ever something closer to you catches your eye then glance at it - that helps you to see if it is a hazard or not. Things near your car will likely take priority. When clear scan back up the road again see what maybe happening in a moment, and scan back nearer to the car and around the car (mirrors) - including a glance at the dashboard to check that all instruments are OK too.
Ensure that you have a 2 sec gap to the car in front (give you time to react (to them, to others, to hazards).
The aim here is to enable you for feel In Control.
It will take some time so take it easy and go carefully.
Now where you have a quiet road - perhaps take a few early morning trips and go out of town (assume that you are 'in' town), try different scenery. When you go to a new area you naturally realise (in principal) that signs are as the Highway Code shows and that road marks also conform to those rules. The countryside is more spread out and may help you to relax a little more, but keep a close watch on farm gates and driveways etc !

In other words the roadside furnishings are identical but more spread out. This helps you to build up confidence in your surroundings, and then realise that you are recognising these familiar markings and so in turn help you to see things more easily, and to then digest the information and act accordingly to those notices.
I would recommend that you go to the IAM or other car training organisation, perhaps read some books too, to reinforce & expand your knowledge. They spend some time on observations and this would help you too, not only to help you 'see things' but also to inspire confidence that you *
have* seen things and can rely on your good and growing observational skills.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
Every time something confuses me I start wondering if Ive gone through a red light by accident or something. So I always like there to be a car in front and behind of me so I can watch to make sure I haven't.
What sort of things confuse you ? and in what way?
ItsEssexRob wrote:
Why exactly do new drivers only get 6 points?
They introduced it to try and reduce the KSI's (Killed & seriously Injured). It is indirectly trying to target speeding as many young drivers 'may' get into trouble as their experience is less. The aim that you may then be off the road in favour of further training goes wrong when the expense is so great it all becomes something to fear and become potentially paranoid about.

However if you always choose an appropriate speed to the conditions - so that you can stop (comfortably on your side of the road) in the distance that you can see to be CLEAR in, then you will be fine.

Clear means including ALL hazards and potential hazards, and having good awareness and observation all about you so that you can be sure about your immediate and local area as you drive.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
Surely the newer drivers are the ones who are best tuned into the new skills, as many older drivers passed their test before it became tough and dont know all of the rules and methods we do now?
Well like with most things the 'old times' are very experienced, and that gives them knowledge and skill, and that helps their ability, the new rules and reg they should (and many do) keep up to date with, so, couple experience with knowledge and that can make a safer driver. Much is discussed about how older drivers have formed bad habits, and this can happen, but this is where the Government programs should be continually reminding with good quality on-going education for all road users.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
Same with other offences too, ones that arent directly based on driving skills. Insurance for example, and dont get me wronmg I fully support fining and even imprisonment of offenders who dont have insurance) but what has that got to do with someones driving ability?
A big and difficult problem, one that may well be solved in a variety of ways (easily suitable for another thread - and has been !

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They are not driving skills, you are right they are paperwork, and are needed to satisfy rules and regulations.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
I see so many reckless and destructive drivers about that get away with things either by luck or by knowledge.
Humm well without us 'seeing' too it would be hard to judge appropriately. You say yourself that they might be doing something with knowledge that you are unaware of. Perhaps explain one ? Be very happy to suggest possibilities which might give you an in-sight to
ItsEssexRob wrote:
Because of my fear of this I know that if I ever did get caught by anything it would be a definately human error, as thats what we are humans not machines, I really dont know what I would do if I ever lost my license, as I cannot use public transport and did not prior to driving.
Your best recourse here is to improve your skills so that you can feel more confident and comfortable within your environment.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
I really dont think the law goes about bringing down accidents and reckless speeding the right way. They make it so that people are so busy checking their speedo and checking for cameras they arent concentrating on other things. People would not be so nervous if it wasnt the case that they have only got to make 2 mistakes and bam!
Many experienced drivers akin this to 'like driving blind', as they have to spend a proportion of time, instead of on observation on the road ahead and all about them, but on their speedo. This is crucial as it changes the persons focus and it takes precious time to re-look and re-focus in both locations from a camera (or a possible camera) and the speedo, hence why Safe Speed exists to fight this non-sense and bad 'driver behaviours' that are a direct 'effect' of camera installations.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
If anything it is getting worse. Everytime I go out minor things happen and I wonder if everything was ok.
Worrying? How do you mean? The AA did a report years ago showing that they found that people would have 5 near misses and the 6th was a crash.
ItsEssexRob wrote:
One things for sure though. If I was to get three points, I would not be driving my car one foot untill I passed the 2 year mark, my fear is getting 6 points in one outing.
I guess its irrational since I do drive slowly and carefully, but this is beginning to stress me out more than I would like now, and would like people to help me rationalise it if possible.
Your aim should be to not get any points for any reason and not try to 'obsess' about the first 6, try to see this as a way to put abilities in place so once after the 2yr period you are unlikely not the get any points thereafter either !

Learn skills which will remain with you for all your driving career, not just the next year but for the next 40 or 50 years !
Driving well is possible for everyone, and we can always do better, we are all still learning and growing. There are many ways in which to improve and learn and grow. There are private lessons from instructors that can take you out and go through the things which you find a particular problem, to groups who meet like the IAM.